Thursday, March 3, 2011

on self-worth and comparison

It's a well-known fact that sometimes we find too much of our worth in our work.

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Hay Harvest at Eragny, Camille Pissarro 1901
National Gallery of Canada, Ottawa, Ontario
Source: Wikipedia

We find it difficult to not measure ourselves or "prove" ourselves worthy by how busy we are and how much we get accomplished. A sure sign is when we start telling others they need to do more too, or do it better, or judging them because they're not living up to our standards.

Life becomes one big balancing act that teeters on a very thin rope, ready to fray and send us spiraling down any minute. We don't face it and stop our denial, and it oddly propels us to go even faster. More caffeine, please!

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Lise Sewing 1866, Pierre-Auguste Renoir
Dallas Museum of Art

Some women seem to have it all together. The key word is "seem."

It's important for me to remember that the part of someone else's life I see is all I see. And it's usually a very small part.

Young Housewife, Oil on canvas.
The Russian Museum, St. Petersburg, Russia
Source: Wikipedia

"You can live a lifetime and,
at the end of it,
know more about other people
than you know about yourself."
~ Beryl Markham

I think maybe an accurate addendum to the above would be, "think we know more about other people..." All I see is all I see.

I want to be a true friend who accepts others where they are, and be there to support and encourage them on their journey when they need it. Not give un-solicited advice telling them they need to be like me, or tearing them down instead of building them up. A fine line sometimes. I know I need help in that area. And admitting is the beginning of growth.

Join Emily and others at Imperfect Prose on Thursdays. You have GOT to read her post from today on "Boys with Clown Noses." Get your box of tissues ready.

in the hush of the moon


Shannon said...

So so so true. All I see is all I see
Thank you. Btw I love the art!

Nancy said...

Thanks for stopping by my place, Jimi Ann, and for following. There is much wisdom here. I recently heard a retreat speaker say that the least important things you can know about a person are the things you can see with your eye. Looking forward to reading more from you. blessings.

emily wierenga said...

oh, you have no idea how you spoke to me tonight. this really convicted, hard. thank you friend. so glad you linked. xo

the Lola Letters said...

Beautifully written!!!

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Emma Kay said...

I love this post. You've hit the nail on the head.